While watching Grey's anatomy last night ( I don't have cable so I watch online at random times) I was hit with a startling realization. The media creates a fictitious ideas of how relationships works. These images are destructive towards having a real relationship in Today's world. On Grey's Anatomy Season 9 Episode 12 one of the doctor's was making out in the ambulance with a paramedic when the paramedic stopped her and asked her out on a date because he wanted to see her outside the ambulance. FICTION. In real life the guy would have just kept the intense make out sessions going. Guys use dates to impress women to get them to make out with them. If he is already getting some action he won't go the extra mile. FACT. Then I went on to realize that the main premise of the show is even worse. The head of neurology at a prominent hospital marries his one night stand who is not only a lowly intern when they sleep together but also bat shit crazy. FICTION. While these shows are fun to watch they are subconsciously affecting how we view relationships.
Disney is the biggest enemy of all to healthy modern relationships. With the possible exception of Mulan ( which was based on a true story) all the princess stories involve a man going though breathe defying odds to win the girl. A few of them [Aladdin, Beauty and the Beast, Princess and the Frog, Rapunzel] ok a lot of them even involve the bad guy good girl set up. Where the man is changed by the woman's love for him into someone good and respectable. Its no wonder women stay in abusive relationships Disney taught them that their love and goodness can change any bad boy into a good man.
The Disney Princesses are the original mean girls.
Another example of the bad guy being transformed into a good guy by the love of his princess comes from my all time favorite show of all time the Anime Sailor Moon. Darien was a complete ass to Serena and she fell for him..HARD. Then he magically transformed into the prince charming we all desire. Well thank you Sailor Moon because of your fictitious love story I have been equating men being assholes to me as a sign of their future love and affection you know after I change them.
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After reading all this you probably think I hate all 3 of these things. You could not be more wrong. I just am not a fan of the brain washing it does to young impressionable girls. It sets unrealistic expectations on how a man expresses his love. It supports good girls going after bad guys while the good guys they should be with are left alone turning bitter and eventually into a bad guy. I recently read a book by a man about why mean cheat that stated most bad boys were once good boys that were screwed over by what once was a good woman who got screwed over by a good man. In other words its a vicious cycle, that I believe got its start from the media.
